Traumas
Acon.: „In drei Tagen sterbe ich!“
„Homöopathisches Beruhigungsmittel!“ Sagt seine Todesstunde voraus! Nach starkem Wind, Schreck, Schock oder Angst. Hochakute Situationen. Heftig und schmerzhaft.
Plötzliches hohes Fieber, starker Kopfschmerz, Schreck und Schocksituationen mit Unruhe. Typische Situation: Menschen, die z. B. nach einem Autounfall im Schockzustand unruhig umherlaufen. Kind verletzt? Mama braucht zunächst Acon., damit sie die Ruhe bewart und dem Kind gut beistehen kann!
Anaphylaktischer Schock: Apis C 200, bei Blaufärbung Lach. C 200
[Ed
Schmookler, Ph.D.]
Healing the
vital force damaged by trauma is a critical challenge in homeopathy. Most of
our clients have experienced some trauma, many of them severely, some of them
catastrophically.
With
homeopathy we can play a key role in the healing of trauma, because we can
stimulate healing of the vital force, which receives much of the impact of
trauma.
Psychotherapists
can help clients face the emotions that surface when long buried trauma emerges
and can help the person forge a new life. But homeopaths can bring relief to a
vital force
misshapen
by trauma. Trauma can bruise, oppress, beat, puncture, fragment, shatter, and
even destroy the vital energy that shapes our lives.
Homeopathy
is an especially good modality of healing the kind of damage that trauma
causes. Trauma freezes people in time. Years after a trauma is over, people are
still living it:
the
infancy
still wishes to die. Trauma locks people into the past. Homeopathy unlocks
frozen functioning:
Sepia moves a woman out of post-partum
immobility;
Nat-m. moves old salted away grief into tears
again. Successful homeopathic treatment allows immobilized life to flow again.
3 Levels of
trauma:
Trauma can impact
different levels of the organism, and it is helpful to be clear at what level
one is working when working with survivors of trauma.
The three
levels of trauma are:
Basic Trauma,
Interpersonal Trauma,
Developmental Trauma. We shall examine each in
turn.
1. Level -
Basic Trauma
This level
is common to all trauma, from car accidents to ritual abuse. No matter what the
trauma, all trauma shares some features in common. This has been a surprise to
me. I worked for many years with
Many of
them shared features in common:
a broiling, brooding rage,
a sense of injustice, shock,
an inability to move out of the past,
mistrust,
difficulty maintaining relationships.
My surprise
came when a man who had an auto accident, a woman robbed at gunpoint, and a man
raped as a child all looked like
Their
suffering was similar and so was their way of being in the world.
Examples:
accidents of all kinds (car, sports, industrial) and natural disasters
(earthquakes, floods, hurricanes, fires).
The
Features of Basic Trauma
The primary
feature of all trauma is overwhelmed. Trauma by its very nature presents the
organism with more than it is accustomed to handle. By definition, trauma takes
us beyond our ordinary capacity for coping.
I am accustomed
to going down an elevator at normal speeds. I may be a bit pushed to be crowded
in with far too many people; I would be very stressed to be stuck in an
elevator all day caught between floors in the dark.
But I am
entirely unprepared for it to descend suddenly four stories without brakes.
That would be traumatic. But in going beyond what we are used to coping with,
trauma does not catch our system entirely by surprise,
for we have
survival mechanisms built in to deal with overwhelming experience.
The two
major responses that arise in response to sudden and extreme danger are
hyper-reactivity and shutdown.
Hyper-reactive
response: the primary defense/attack mode of fight or flight. People become
hypervigilant, startle easily, and are ready to run or attack at the slightest
stimuli. They also have repeated flashbacks and nightmares relating to the
trauma.
Picture of Hyper-reactivity
You come
out to the waiting room to meet your client, and he looks up in surprise. He
looks you intently in the eye, and pulls his hand away quickly when you shake
his hand. "I'm not myself,"
he says,
when you settle down in the office. "I'm jumpy, and I can't sleep. Ever
since the accident, my mind isn't working right. I keep going over and over
what happened. I can't seem to
make it
stop. And then," he says, starting to get agitated, "every time I go
out, I react in ways I shouldn't. I don't understand what's happening with me.
Sometimes, I think I'm going crazy.
When people
are walking on the sidewalk towards me, I feel like they are coming right at
me. I get mad. I get mad real easily these days. The other day, at a fast food
place, I almost got in a
fight with
this kid that bumped into me. People just piss me off. I didn't use to be this
way."
Shut-down
The other
pole in traumatic response is shutdown. When an organism becomes overwhelmed,
it has built-in responses to protect it from too much reaction. Physiological
shutdown is shock.
The
periphery closes so that the vital functions within the core of the organism
can be preserved. Shock has a quality that is unmistakable once you become
familiar with it. It is a combination
of
frozenness, pallor, and brittleness. This can be lodged in the system and
emerge many years after the trauma, when the trauma is accessed. Psychological
shutdown in trauma is emotional
numbing and
avoidance of stimuli that remind people of the trauma. People become detached,
unemotional, and unable to have normal feelings. They avoid situations, such as
public places or
open spaces
or closed in spaces or crowed places which remind them of where they were hurt;
or they may avoid people who remind them of people who hurt them. The deepest
level of
shutdown is
depression, which often accompanies Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
Picture of Shutdown
She sits on
the chair facing you. She looks stunned. You ask her questions, and there is a
short pause before she answers. She sometimes draws a blank. Her face looks
blank, staring straight
ahead. She
slumps back in her chair. "What are you feeling these days?" you ask.
"I don't know. Not much." She sits and waits. You ask for more.
"I stay home and watch TV a lot.
I just sit
in the house. I don't really want to do anything. My boyfriend comes over, but
it isn't the same anymore. I really don't care if he comes over or not. It
bothers me that I feel that way.
I know I
should feel different. Ever since I got hit by the car, I don't really have
interests in anything." Long silence. Her eyes look sunken in.
Most trauma
survivors have both the activation and the shutdown going on simultaneously:
they are driving full speed ahead with the brakes on. One reason that trauma
has such devastating effects on the economy of the
organism is
that it is a real burn-out. Hyper-reactivity combined with shutdown can
overload and consequently exhaust the nervous system, the immune system, and
the neuro-endrocrinological system.
People with
disorders of these systems often have trauma in their background. Trauma thus
becomes fertile ground for homeopathic treatment.
Here are
examples of some rubrics one might use in such cases.
Fear, happen, that something terrible will
Sensitive, (oversensitive)
Disturbed, nightmare by
Irritability
Shock, injury from
Sleepless, frightened easily
Examples of
remedies one might consider would be:
Acon:
perhaps our best first aid in trauma, along with Arnica. For the shock stage of
trauma. Shock becomes embedded in the energy structure and does not necessarily
pass after trauma is over.
It can
remain in the system for decades, emerging only as the trauma is uncovered
again. Aconite can be used many, many years after traumas of all kinds to help
remove shock from the system.
The best
picture of Aconite is to my mind in Gibson's Studies of Homeopathic Remedies,
where he describes the nature of the poisoning by this plant. It is a state of
freezing anoxia.
The feeling
state associated with Aconite is, "It happened too suddenly for me to
accommodate, so I'm stopping and going inside to preserve myself."
Arn.:
primary remedy for treating physical injuries, including physical abuse. Again,
even years after the trauma, Arnica can be successfully used to bring about
healing of trauma. A key aspect of
this remedy
is that the person does not wish to be approached for fear of being hurt again.
Its feeling state is "I need to stay still and go inside to heal. Don't
come near or draw me out."
2. Level -
Interpersonal Trauma
A car
accident, an industrial accident, an earthquake, or a fire can leave people
suffering from PTSD. But when the injury is at the hands of another person,
when it comes from intentional violation, new features enter in.
Even though
all trauma has impact on a person's relationships, interpersonal violence is
more devastating. People lose their trust and their sense of personal power
more deeply. Thus, what
you are
treating is different and in a sense deeper than when treating Basic Trauma
alone.
Examples of
Interpersonal Trauma are war, rape, and armed robbery. Murder is another
example which can impact others related to the victim. Another kind of
Interpersonal Trauma is
loss of a
loved one, especially sudden loss.
The
Features of Interpersonal Trauma
The two
kinds of Interpersonal we encounter most frequently are interpersonal violence
and loss.
Interpersonal Violence
When one
person commits violence upon another, all of the responses of Basic Trauma are
activated - hyper-reactivity and shutdown. But in addition to this, deeper
levels of the self are violated, and different responses occur.
This occurs
at two levels: one is in the relationship to others, and the other in
relationship to oneself.
When people
have been violated they not only fear and avoid the perpetrator; they also tend
to generalize and mistrust all other people as well. Basic Trauma breaks the
bubble of invulnerability people carry around themselves. We generally go
around assuming ourselves safe, even though we may know that things can happen
to us. When we are traumatized this illusion of safety is
broken.
Energetically, the aura around a person which serves as a cushion against
intrusive stimulation collapses, and the person feels exposed to danger. But,
in addition, when people have
been
violated by others, the native trust that people feel toward others is
fractured, and they live in mistrust. They also often feel abandoned. This is
universally true in abused children, but it
often
happens with adults who were raped or who were harmed by war. Where was the
protection? Why did this happen to me?
Interpersonal
violence also disrupts the sense of self. Through violation, people experience
helplessness and powerlessness. The usual impact of Interpersonal Trauma is a
lowering of self-confidence and self-value. People feel
bad about
themselves. Very often this is experienced as shame. Being beaten or raped by
another is a deeply shaming experience. In addition, people feel immense rage
at being violated. The sense of self is marred and the relationship to others
disturbed.
Because
trust, empowerment, and value have been so violated in Interpersonal Trauma, it
is important for us as practitioners to treat such clients in a way that builds
trust and supports empowerment. Even when the treatment is
not
psychotherapy, the relationship is essential in the healing process.
Trust is
supported by empathy, authenticity, and mirroring. Letting your clients know
that you understand something of how they feel, being yourself, and telling
them what you understand about how they experience their lives will help them
feel "met" by you. Being open and being yourself will help people
feel safe. Expressing doubt about their experience, minimizing its impact, or
being cold or arrogant will reduce trust. It may take a long time for
a trauma
client to come to trust you.
You can help
your clients feel empowered by including them in your understanding of the
healing process and allowing them as much choice as makes sense. Make sure that
informed consent is complete, let them know what can happen from the remedies,
and let them make choices about when and how they are to be treated. For
example, some clients who have been abused by oral sex may prefer to take the
remedy themselves rather than have the remedy put under the tongue by the
practitioner.
Picture of Interpersonal Violence
She sits,
crying. "Ever since the rape, I'm not the same. I used to enjoy life. I'd
go out and have a good time. I loved my boyfriend. I guess I still love him,
but we're not getting along any more, at least not like we used to.
We fight,
about nothing really. I just don't trust him. He wants to have sex all the
time, and I don't like it as much as I used to. To tell you the truth, I'd just
as soon he'd leave me alone. I tell him I don't want to, but then I feel
bad about
myself. Sometimes I feel like I'm just no good. Then other times, I think it's
him."
Prototypical
Case Example
Here is a
prototypical example of such a case, combining several actual cases. A woman
comes in who was a victim of a robbery two years ago. Since that time, in
addition to the standard symptoms of Basic Trauma, she has
also had a
severe disturbance in her relationships. She has difficulty in trusting anyone.
She feels she was "shafted" by her employer, whom she warned about
the possible dangers of robbery. She is angry at the employer and
at its
representative, the insurance company who is paying for her treatment. She also
has trouble trusting her own judgment, since she feels she should have left her
employment after they failed to heed her warning. She is depressed, her relationship
with her partner has deteriorated, and she doesn't like herself much, because
she is ashamed of her distrust and even dislike of other people that has come
about since the robbery.
Rubrics one
might use could include:
Suspicious, (mistrustful)
Confidence, want of self
Rage, (fury)
Aversion, (being approached/to all persons)
Forsaken, feeling
Ailments from mortification
Remedies
that one might use might be:
Staph.:
sexually abused daughter, he feels shame, and often he will project this shame
into her: look what you made me do, you are so bad. In addition, sexual abuse,
because it is so secret and because it arouses
feelings of
pleasure at the same time as it violates, is deeply shaming. This shame does
not go away.
Is one of
our best shame remedies [ailments from (suppressed) mortification], and it is
one of our best remedies for sequelae of sexual abuse. It is good for the
suppressed rage that arises in abuse. A child often cannot
afford to
express the rage she or he feels against the perpetrator; it would make the
situation even more dangerous. Staphysagria can bring rage back to the
forefront and return shame to its rightful owner, the perpetrator.
Staph is
also, incidentally, almost a specific for trauma involving cuts. Its feeling
state is, "There is something rotten in me; I dare not fight back."
Ign.:
prominent remedy for sudden loss or the loss of relationships that don't go too
deep. It is also good for people who get stuck in a "black hole," one
of the common subjective phenomena that accompanies trauma.
In trauma,
including sudden loss, feelings often get stuck, unable to release.
Ign. can
sometimes be of use here. Nux-v. + Ign. have strychnine as one of its
constituents, both have the spastic working-against-itself quality. So it has
somatizing and tensing shared by Nux-v and Rhus-t. I think Ign.
primarily
tensing against the expression of grief and rage. A client obsessing about a
boyfriend, calling him and going to his house at all hours and raging at him, collapsing
in constant grief, unable to move on, came out of it
after a
dose of Ign. The feeling state of Ign. is, "I am tightly immersed in
grief."
3. Three -
Developmental Trauma
When
Interpersonal Trauma (or severe Basic Trauma) impacts early during childhood,
then it has the deepest impact of all. It is while the tree is still growing,
that the limbs can become most
easily
deformed. People with Developmental Trauma suffer from more than PTSD; their
personality structures have become altered - it is more than a condition, it
becomes part of the being.
As one of
my clients put it, "Recovery from incest is like trying to remove egg from
the batter after the cake is baked." Thus, the tasks of healing are more
complex than with Basic Trauma or Interpersonal adult trauma.
You must
help the person heal from Basic Trauma, Interpersonal Trauma, and the impact on
the whole personality structure.
Most
Developmental Trauma come in the form of abuse. The different kinds of abuse
are physical, sexual, emotional, spiritual, and ritual.
As we go
through the layers, from Basic, to Interpersonal, to Developmental, we are,
generally speaking, moving from acute to chronic. People usually recover faster
and more easily from an earthquake than from a rape and
from an adult
experience of rape than from childhood sexual abuse. Therefore, the choice of
remedies will sometimes reflect the depth of the trauma.
Generally,
in treating Basic Trauma we will be thinking of acute remedies; in treating
Interpersonal Trauma, we'll be using remedies that work at an intermediate
depth; and in treating Developmental Trauma, we will work
with
remedies that reach much deeper into the organism, even down to the miasmatic
level.
Developmental
Trauma shares all the features of Basic and Interpersonal Trauma, but it has
the added dimension of impact on personality and character structure.
When we
treat Developmental Trauma, our work tends to be more complex, deeper, and
slower than when working with purely Basic Trauma or adult Interpersonal
Trauma.
Most trauma
cases I see are Developmental Trauma cases. Even in situations where there has
been an accident or a rape or war experience, very often there is also a
background of childhood trauma. This results in a more prolonged recovery. If you
are treating someone for a recent trauma and recovery is slower than seems
reasonable, it may be that there is additional trauma in the background, which
can sometimes be discovered through
inquiry.
Kinds of Abuse
Knowing
about the different kinds of abuse you might encounter may help you avoid going
into shock and getting vicarious PTSD, when you hear peoples' stories.
Physical abuse
Many, many
children are hit. There is controversy about whether this is at all necessary.
Alice Miller, in For Your Own Good, describes the consequences of what she
calls "poisonous pedagogy" of the past few centuries, in which
parents have justified serious aggression against their children by claiming it
is in the child's best interests. Most of the physical abuse I have seen as a
clinician, however, comes in the form of severe beatings, usually
unpredictable. It is therefore usually not a form of discipline. The movie A
Boy's Story, depicts physical abuse and its frightening and degrading impact.
Physical abuse frightens people and damages their self-esteem.
Picture of Physical Abuse
"It
would happen when he'd been drinking. When he was sober, my father was actually
easy to get along with. I loved him. But then at night, I'd listen for the
door, and when it would slam,
I'd know he
was drunk. My whole body would freeze, and I'd sit in my room and wait.
Sometimes I'd hear him and my mom yelling. Then after awhile I'd hear them
fighting. One time he pushed
her down
the stairs. I felt so terrible. I hated him. But I also feel so ashamed that I
didn't do anything about it." "Could you have done something?"
"I don't know. I was seven." Long pause.
"Other
times, he'd come into my room, with that terrible look in his eyes. It was like
he didn't even see me. He'd pull me off my bed and start whaling on me. One
time, he threw me across the
room into a
wall. I hate him. Maybe it's because of him that I can't get too close to
anybody."
Emotional abuse
Sometimes this
is more painful than physical abuse, because its impact is closer to the core.
(see Vithoulkas) Parents who belittle, threaten, harass, criticize, intimidate,
and rage at their children
can leave
deep, traumatic scars that seriously warp their development.
I think
that most people have some degree of emotional abuse in growing up. The
manifestations probably cover most remedies, depending upon severity and kind
of abuse. I think it would be
too hard to
do a group anamnesis, because the kinds of abuse and responses vary too much.
An excellent book on the subject, also by Alice Miller, is Drama of the Gifted
Child, which most
people seem
to be able to identify with.
Sexual abuse
Whether by
a stranger or by a family member, sexual abuse seems generally more devastating
in its impact than physical abuse. While physical abuse will usually leave its
victim with a deep
sense of
shame, because they have usually been told that the beatings are their own
fault, sexual abuse leaves a deeper level of shame. It is almost always a
secret, with severe threats for telling. Therefore, remembering
is often
difficult and telling is frightening. When clients tell you about their abuse
history, support for their truth is important in order not to retraumatize
them.
Picture of sexual abuse
"I
can't stand how I feel these days. When the memories first came, I felt so
relieved. All the sadness I had always felt just suddenly was explained and now
I don't feel that vague horrible depression anymore. But I can't stand
being touched
right now, even by my husband. He doesn't understand, and I can't get him to
understand. I feel so horrible. The other day, my girlfriend and I were
talking. The same thing happened to her when she was a
little
girl. She says all men are like our fathers. I don't like to think that way,
but sometimes I think it's true. When my father used to do those things to me,
I hated him. But I also loved him. It was confusing.
I wanted
him to love me. But not that way. He made me feel real bad about myself. Sometimes
my husband does too. Especially when he gets mad at me when I don't want to
have sex. Sometimes I wish I was dead."
Ritual abuse
As
difficult as it is to accept, there are organized groups of people, pederasts
and sadists, who prey upon small children and others. Many people from all over
the world are survivors of abuse by Satanic cults.
Some of
them have been born into transgenerational families who have practiced
ritualized, sexual sadism. These clients all share similar stories of ritual
murder and worse. The abuse is usually prolonged and repetitive
and has
understandably catastrophic impact on development. Similar, less horrific abuse
appears in other cult and religious settings.
It usually
involves the deepest level of attempted destruction, the spiritual level, and
aims to destroy or otherwise impact the soul. In this kind of unimaginably
severe trauma, deep and even miraculous healing is possible.
I have too
little experience treating ritual abuse homeopathically. I work a great deal as
a therapist in this domain, but it does not lend itself well to combining with
homeopathy, because the transference is so deeply complex
and
difficult in these cases, that taking on another role is too demanding and
seems generally inappropriate. In addition, people who have been ritually
abused have
usually been drugged by their perpetrators, which generates an additional,
complex factor that requires special handling. If you find yourself treating a
client with ritual abuse,
I strongly
suggest getting consultation from a psychotherapist experienced in treating
such trauma, so that you understand more about what you are dealing with.
Prototypical
Case Example
Here is an
example of a typical case of Developmental Trauma, drawn from numerous cases. A
woman comes in with a history of depression, disturbed relationships, and
chronic low
self-esteem.
As her history unfolds, you discover that she grew up in a family with an
alcoholic mother and an abusive father. The mother was emotionally absent. The father
was severely narcissistic, and he took advantage
of the
daughter's vulnerability to develop and perpetuate an incestuous relationship.
She had forgotten about the incest until recently, when the memories began to
emerge. Since then, her life has fallen apart. She has
difficulty
sleeping, her relationship with her partner and friends have disintegrated, and
she has difficulty on her job. She has always been a "caretaker,"
first of her younger siblings, then later of her friends and her
alcoholic
partner. She has little sense of her own worth, she never did. She has a
history of sexual promiscuity # with sexual aversion. She feels suicidal a lot
and has always felt that way. She feels a great deal of despair and anguish
underneath. She feels no one has ever been there for her, and in fact, no one
has. She has little sense of any possible positive future for herself.
Examples of
rubrics one might use could include:
Confidence, want of self
Despair
Fear, approaching him, of others
Fear, hurt, of being
Fear, injured, of being
Fear, misfortune, of
Fear, people, of
Sadness, (despondency, dejection, depression)
Ailments, from anger, vexation
Ailments, from anxiety
Delusions, injury, is about to receive
Worry
Weeping, mortification, after
Remedies
one might consider:
Aur-met.:
One of the fundamental loves, which is the love of living, of self protection
is perverted and he longs to die..." (
often
simply do not want to go on. Trauma crushes the will to live, and one of the
few remaining powers people have is to leave. In addition, trauma, because it
feels like it contaminates one's very inside, makes people feel
that they
and their lives are worthless. It is then time to leave. Suicidal despair.
"I am crushed and life is too painful to endure."
Syph.:
Abusive families, when there is violence +/o. alcohol is the most destructive
and desperate miasm. Syphilinum is the pure homeopathic for this family miasm.
See the movie, Once Were Warriors to observe and
feel this
miasm at its horrific work. Sankaran describes the miasm as so unable to cope
with the situation that it is desperately driven either to kill or to die.
After years
of psychotherapy and homeopathic treatment, one client no longer needed therapy
after Syph. CM. The inner desperation that came from a childhood of abandonment
and physical abuse was healed by this remedy.
The feeling
state of Syphilinum is, " There is black rage; this must be over and
done!"
Conclusion
Many of the
cases a homeopath sees have trauma as part of the picture. Awareness of trauma
and its impact may help you to understand the case and select the right remedy.
As usual,
careful
selection of a remedy that covers the whole case will be the key to your
success. With cases with significant trauma, it is helpful to have your client
see a psychotherapist adjunctively
to help
manage the overwhelming feelings that can emerge in the healing process. For
dosing, it is best to start low and to go slow.
Author's
Introductory Note: This manual was originally written for people working in the
field with women survivors of rape in Bosnia, but it can be used more broadly
as a guide for helping anyone of either gender who has survived any kind of trauma.
Since it is written from afar and based on experiences similar to but not the
same as the ones you are dealing with, please use what is useful or helpful and
ignore what is irrelevant or wrong for
your
circumstances, trusting more in your judgment and intuition than in anything
contained herein. Also, please be aware that some of the suggestions and
conversations suggested here may not fit the cultural context you
will be
working in. It is best to ask local people about what can be discussed in private
or in public with any group you are dealing with. For example, some people in
the former Yugoslavia may be unwilling to discuss rape
with
anyone. It may be necessary to talk "around" such subjects rather
than directly. Some groups may not be willing to discuss feelings at all. When
in doubt, follow rather than lead.
When people
have experienced things they cannot stand, ordinary people can often give them
what they need to help them begin to heal. This section gives general
guidelines for working with people who have been
catastrophically
violated.
What they are suffering
The people
you will be working with have experienced events that have permanently changed
their lives. But they can heal. People who have been raped, who have seen their
loved ones killed -- their lives will never be the
same again.
Yet no matter how great the horror people have experienced, they may recover
emotional functioning, so that they are not feeling pain, terror, shame, fear,
or horror all the time. Rape and murder may have
robbed them
of a sense of integrity and wholeness, but in time and with your help, they may
be able to resume life with their sense of self restored.
People who
have experienced rape or torture or who have witnessed murders of loved ones
usually suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, a psychological disorder
that occurs when people have experienced
life-threatening,
shocking events. It has symptoms that are often the same for different people,
regardless of the specific events they suffered.
With Post
Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), many normal processes are more intense, while
many are deadened. People whose normal lives have been drastically changed by
the sudden intrusion of horrifying and
destructive
events are experiencing more than they can integrate, and their sense of
security and safety is shattered. In PTSD, some of people's responses are
greatly heightened. The blow of a severe event has told them
that the
world is not the safe place they imagined. So they become ready for danger at
all times: they have hyper-vigilance -- greater readiness to flee or fight.
They live in emergency mode, and they have learned not to trust.
At the same
time as having heightened responses, they also shut down a great deal, so that
many of their normal responses to life and to other people are not accessible
to them. As a result, these are some of the symptoms you might see:
Intense emotion and reactivity. People
exposed to traumatic events feel intense pain, terror, shame, horror, grief,
rage, and shock. They are activated and alert most of the time, ready to react.
People may be jumpy, looking constantly for danger, and easily startled. They
may have difficulty sleeping or even relaxing.
Numbness. When hell suddenly breaks into a
life, people become overwhelmed. They may experience shock and protect
themselves through denial, disbelief, and dissociation (spacing out or
splitting away from the terrible events as if they didn't happen to them). They
feel numb, feel cut off from other people and from their own feelings, and as
if they are no longer really alive.
Flashbacks. People who have had terrible
things happen to them will often re-experience the events over and over again,
against their will. They will experience their minds invaded by thoughts of the
events and will feel
tortured by
them.
Nightmares. Like flashbacks, but these
occur in sleep. As a result some people can be afraid to go to sleep and may
develop sleep deprivation.
Triggering. Often people will respond to
events that remind them of the trauma with all the feelings that belonged to
the trauma itself. Combat soldiers, for example, will respond to loud noises as
if it meant incoming mortar; rape victims may respond to the smell of a man as
if he were her rapist.
What they need
Most of all
people need to feel relatively safe. Anyone who has been extremely hurt by
other people, especially when they have been systematically tortured has
learned not to trust anyone. This is how they survived. They will
not trust you
at first, not for a long time, maybe never. Moreover, in areas of the world in
which brutality, horror, and extreme danger have become commonplace, talking
about safety can seem absurd or even offensive.
But you
still can help people to feel relatively safer. All of us know how to do that
with people; we just need to be reminded how: we may begin simply by performing
simple acts of kindness, by letting people alone when
they want
to be let alone, by treating other people as if you cared about them. Most
important for survivors of extreme abuse is that they need to know these
things:
They need to know that you will respect
their boundaries. Trauma, almost by definition, breaches people's normal
boundaries. It is as if life drives a bulldozer over people's normal sense of
protection, sense of safety, and
sense of
self. So people need to know that their wishes matter, that you will not force
them to respond in anyway other than what they choose, and that you will not
invade them.
They need to know they can leave if they
want to. People who have experienced prison and torture must know that they are
not trapped, that they can get out if they want.
They will not be touched if they do not
want to be. People who have learned to associate touch with violation often
cannot bear to be touched, even in kindness. Especially when the violation was
sexual, they may not be able
to tolerate
intimacy, even when you mean well.
They need to feel accepted and not judged.
When people have been violated, they experience a lot of feelings about
themselves they cannot stand. They judge themselves very harshly and can often
not even stand the fact
that they
are alive. They need those around to accept and affirm them as having value and
not as having been "spoiled" or "ruined" by what they have
been through, even if that is how they themselves feel.
People usually need to talk and be listened
to. When people hurt, especially when they hurt more than you can stand to
hear, or think about, or feel, it is hard just to listen to people. But it the
most important thing you can do.
People need to be believed. Trauma is, by
definition, something outside of ordinary experience. We should not let our
beliefs about what can and can't be true get in the way of believing the
stories of survivors. Life can bring events into the lives of others that we
can hardly stand to imagine. We could try to protect ourselves by denial and
disbelief. But it is best to try to stay open, so that survivors of horrific
trauma are not further injured by our disbelief.
Often people need to have their feelings
paid attention to. When people hurt in ways they cannot stand, they freeze up
their feelings. They just try to survive. That is nature's way of helping them
to get through what they have
to endure.
But afterward they need to get their feelings back, so that they can function
again, and so that they don't have to go through their lives closed down
inside. If they are still numb, you should not push them. Nature knows when it
is time to feel again.
Sometimes people need to be left alone. We
should never force help on people who have already been forced to do things by
other people. We should help people only when they want help. Sometimes people
are unready to face what has happened to them, or to experience their own
feelings, or to talk about what has happened. It is always important to respect
people's healing process. Each person needs to heal in her own way in her own
time. Some need to feel, some need to remain numb. The best approach, when you
are uncertain about what a person wants is to ask. It is always good to ask
people's permission to talk about what happened, to talk about their feelings,
or to help them in any way. It is almost always damaging to people to insist that
you know what they need better than they do.
What you can do to help: Your
Characteristics
Your presence is the most important gift
you can give. Many people think that to help severely emotionally wounded
people they should have highly specialized medical training, or they should
know the right things to say in order to make them feel better. That is not
true. What is most important to badly hurt people is that they know that you
are there and that you care. It is often remarkably simple what people need.
They need you to be able to be present, focusing your attention on them; and
they need you to be open, listening to them with your heart and your feelings,
feeling with them.
Detachment. In addition to your compassion,
survivors of trauma also need your neutrality. Many of the events that you hear
about may elicit very strong feelings in you -- feelings that are very
appropriate. You may feel
angry, sad,
grieving, frightened, horrified, shocked, and deeply disturbed. Sometimes it is
helpful to share a little of these feelings, so that people you are working
with realize that they are with a human being, and so that you
can remind
them that it is appropriate to feel. But for the most part, the goal of
individual work is to help people find their own feelings again, and for that
they often need your calm, grounded presence rather than a lot of your
emotional reactions. They have already had their space violated by others, now
they need their own space to work in, and you can provide that best by making
sure that it is their feelings, not yours, that occupy most of the time
and space
in the room.
What you can do to help: Procedures
and Processes
Begin simply. Introduce yourself, tell the
person you are working with (we shall call her the survivor from now on,
because she has survived some terrible events) that you are there to help and
to listen. Do not begin with discussion of the traumatic events unless they
initiate that themselves. Begin by helping the survivor to become comfortable,
asking her how she is doing in the present, whether she would like your help,
how she would like to
you to
help, whether she wants to talk to you, what she would like to talk about now.
. The goal in the beginning is to meet and set up an agreement and a space in
which hard work can later occur; it is not necessarily a time to begin that
hard work, unless this is the only meeting you will have, or unless you will
have very few meetings.
Let the survivor lead. Perhaps the simplest
and best rule in healing is to trust the other person's process. Nature heals,
not you, and the person will bring things up in their own way and own time, as
they are ready. It is therefore often best simply to sit in comfortable
silence, once initial greetings have taken place and you have let the other
person know that they can talk about whatever they want, and wait for them to
decide what they want to talk about.
Ask questions. Even though it is good to
wait, you need not be passive. Once the other person has begun to talk about
events it is good to engage with them, to let them know you are interested and
also to help guide the process. What questions to ask is a matter of judgment
and experience. Basically, it is good to trust your own intuition, instinct,
and interest to provide the questions, but below are some further guidelines
suggesting how to direct the process.
Always work with permission. Never force or
pressure a survivor to remember or to feel. Always ask if they would like to
discuss something before leading further.
As long as the survivor is not overwhelmed
and is willing, create space for her to move into discussing more emotionally
difficult material. One goal is to help the survivor to integrate what has happened
to her. You are following nature. If the person is already having flashbacks
and nightmares, part of her mind wants to bring the experience into
consciousness and master it, making sense of it, integrating it into her life,
so she can go on. Therefore you will want to help her do that. Here is an
example of how one may work with a survivor by asking questions that permit
movement into discussing more emotionally intense material.
Therapist: What would you like to talk
about today?
Survivor: I've been having some
disturbing thoughts lately.
T: Disturbing thoughts?
S: Yes.
T: Would you like to talk about those
thoughts?
S: I guess so. It's just that the
feelings are so disturbing, that I'm not sure that I want to go into it.
T: I understand that. The feelings are
so strong that it is hard to be willing to talk about these things.
S: Yes. But I guess I need to talk
about it. It won't just go away. Right?
T: If you want to talk about it, I'm
interested in hearing. You should talk about it only if you are ready.
Let people tell their story. Generally,
people who are healing from horror need to tell their story. They don't need
you to push them, but they need to know that you are there who cares and want
to know and are willing to listen. Generally, you can convey this through quiet
openness and some encouragement to go into the story.
Survivor: I am haunted by nightmares of
what happened to me.
Therapist: Do you want to tell me about
the nightmares?
S: In each dream, I am alone in my
house, and I hear noises outside. I feel absolute terror, just waiting for them
to come in. They come in and I scream. Sometimes I wake myself up then.
T: It sounds like a lot of terror. Do
these dreams remind you of what happened?
S: Yes.
T: Do you want to talk about it?
S: (Long pause.) I can't believe what
happened. These people were my neighbors. My children went to school with their
children....How can people....They were drunk. They made so much noise. I
thought the door would reak....There were three of them. I didn't know what to
do. I wanted to run out of the house, but -- I don't know what was wrong with
me. I just froze. One of them said bad things to me. I knew what was going to
happen. Their eyes. They looked like dogs, when they attack. I couldn't
breathe.
Allow the experience and expression of
feeling. In general, within the guidelines above it is helpful for people to
experience and express the feelings they have about what they have endured.
The feelings that may emerge are fear,
terror, shock, horror, anger, rage, grief, sadness, disgust, and shame. Each of
these feelings is a legitimate and understandable response to the experiences
survivors have had. Being able to re-experience and express these feelings in
the context of a trusting relationship with you can help them to overcome the
mistrust, isolation, and damaged relationships that experiencing rape and
torture, and witnessing murder inevitably bring.
Many times you may find yourself very
uncomfortable with the intensity of feelings that a survivor has. You may wish
to make the person wrong for having those feelings by denying the reality of
their experience or by telling them they should not feel as they do. Or you may
want to try to make them feel better, to spare both them and yourself the
rawness of their feelings. It is almost always wrong to tell someone they
should not feel as they do. It is often not helpful to try to make someone feel
better before fully registering, accepting, and mirroring the feeling as it is.
It is generally best just to accept the feelings as they emerge, realizing that
is probably the best you can do for their healing.
Some specific techniques are helpful in
working with feelings:
Ask the survivor what she feels. Sometimes
hearing the story is enough. Other times, it is helpful to elicit the feeling.
For example,
Survivor: Every day they came in and did
the same thing. (Speaks in monotone, without apparent feeling.)
Therapist: What are you feeling?
S: I feel terrible about myself now. I
don't see any point in living.
Tt: Why? Why is it that you don't see
any point in living?
S: I'm ruined. They spoiled me. I can
never be the same again.
T: You feel ruined. [Notice that the
therapist is not agreeing with the client's self-assessment, but is re-framing
(changing the meaning) of the client's statement by pointing out that it is a
feeling, not necessarily a reality.]
S: Yes. I feel dirty.
T: What they did to you made you feel
terrible about yourself.
S: (Starts to cry.) I feel so ashamed.
(Cries freely.)
T: When people have been violated as
you have, it makes them feel a lot of shame. [This tells the client that it is
natural to feel as she does, and it is not her fault that she feels this way.]
Reflect what you hear and see. Telling the
survivor how she comes across to you can sometimes help her focus on how she
feels. Example,
Survivor: I've been thinking about
going back to my village.
Therapist: I notice you look a little
frightened.
S: I am. I don't know if there is any
chance I ever can go back. What is to keep the same thing from happening again.
If I couldn't trust my neighbors before, how can I now?
Do not push for catharsis. People in shock
do not always benefit from strong expression of emotion. Shock is a state in
which functions get frozen and knotted. Sometimes, a spontaneous expression of
feeling helps to thaw the freeze. Other times it is better to let the system
unfreeze gradually and gently, letting the "knots" in the nervous
system unwind slowly. While cathartic experience can help, repeated experiences
of powerful emotion, especially when pushed by someone else, can sometimes be
retraumatizing and reinforce the traumatic state.
Focusing on body sensations helps the
nervous system to unwind from trauma. In trauma, people get stuck in the past.
They need to move carefully out of being stuck. You can assist this by helping
people follow their own inner sensations.
Survivor: I don't think I can stand how
I feel.
Therapist: What are you feeling?
S: I don't know. I just know I can't
stand it.
T: What do you notice going on in your
body?
S: I don't notice anything.
T: Nothing.
S: I feel like I'm not even in my body.
T: Yes. Where are you?
S: Up there (points to ceiling).
(Survivor is indicating she is dissociated.)
T: Good. What do you notice about your
body from up there? (Begins to reintroduce the body back into consciousness.)
S: It's tense.
T: Where do you notice the tension?
S: In the shoulders. And the chest.
T: OK, good. (Saying "good"
or "fine" lets the client know implicitly that she is on the right
track, no matter what she reports; that she only needs to say what is there,
and that whatever is there is fine.) So you're tense in the shoulders and
chest. Anywhere else?
S: Yes, my stomach is tight.
T: Good. So let's see what happens if
you pay attention to your shoulders and chest and arms being tight. Just notice
that for awhile.
S: (Long silence. This kind of work is
a very slow process. Don't worry if it takes a long time for anything to seem
as if it is happening.) (Takes a deep breath) My stomach is starting to loosen
a little bit. (Survivor is starting to unwind a little. This is good; in this
kind of work, we don't need drama to be effective.)
If the person seems overwhelmed, lead away
from emotionally painful material. It is important to monitor the survivor, to
make sure that the feelings and experiences that are arising are not
overwhelming to the survivor in the present. "Overwhelming" is not
the same as intense. Overwhelming means that the person simply cannot take in
the experience now. Signs that the person is feeling overwhelmed are the
following:
The person experiences herself leaving her
body. This is a symptom of dissociation and a sign that the person's nervous
system cannot deal with the overload of sensation.
The person loses the ability to
communicate. Sometimes people will become quiet when absorbed in the memory of
an experience. That is often a sign of healing. Other times, however, they may
find themselves unable to talk, speaking very haltingly, etc. This may be a
sign that the person is feeling overwhelmed. If you are unsure about whether
the client is handling the silence productively or is feeling overwhelmed, ask
her what is happening.
The survivor seems "spacey," that
is, the eyes become glazed, they seem "not there," or somehow seem to
be far away. This is another sign of dissociation.
The person experiences perceptual
distortions. Her body might feel like cotton, her visual field may narrow
severely, she may feel cold and numb or unable to move parts of her body, or
she may feel cut off from her surroundings.
If these signs and symptoms are present, or
if you have other reasons to believe that the survivor is feeling more
sensation and feeling than she can handle (not more than you can handle, more
than she can handle), then lead the discussion back into the present. Here are
examples of leading back to the present. Notice how in this example, body
sensation is used to "ground" the person, that is bring her back into
present time and in this place, away from the past trauma.
Survivor: Then this man came and
got....I'm feeling strange now. I don't think I can go on with this.
Therapist: You're feeling strange.
[Focusing on present feeling is sometimes a beginning point of getting someone
back to the present, without being too abrupt.]
S: Yes. My head feels kind of funny
T: Pay attention to that now. Notice
the sensations in your head. [ Focusing on present bodily sensations is the
best way of bringing someone into present reality and away from overwhelm. It
brings her "back into her body."]
S: I feel kind of dizzy.
T: What else do you notice going on in
your body? [Moving away from the overwhelm in the head, moving to lower parts
of the body can be "grounding," that is helping the person
"root" in present time with both feet on the ground.]
S: I feel kind of sick to my stomach.
T: Pay attention to that feeling.
Notice the sensations. [Here you are showing the person she does not have to be
afraid of sensations that may have seemed overwhelming a few minutes ago.]
S: I feel nauseous.
T: Stay with that for awhile and see what
happens.
S: My jaw feels tight.
T: What happens if you stay with that
sensation?
S: I feel a softening happening in my
arms.
T: Go with that: stay with that sensation
for awhile. (Survivor is encouraged to experience the "letting go"
into healing. Softening, melting, lightening sensations can be signs that the
survivor is letting go and experiencing relief and healing.)
Enhancing the feeling of safety is another
way to reduce overwhelm and allow integration of difficult material. If the
person remains persistently overwhelmed but still wishes to go through her
story, there is a way to help people to integrate difficult material more
easily and safely. In the first part of the technique, the therapist asks the
survivor to imagine in her mind a safe place. It can be a real or imaginary
scene. It can be a place in nature or indoors. In war zones, nature may not be
appropriate to imagine as a safe place, due to the high density of landminds
and other dangers. Sometimes people who have suffered severe trauma will say
they cannot think of anyplace safe. Then it is best to ask them to think of the
safest place they can. Then the therapist asks the survivor to imagine being in
the safe place, perhaps with someone whom they trust with them there too. After
the person imagines herself there and is feeling somewhat secure, the therapist
asks the survivor to leave the safe place and go back to the traumatic incident
in her imagination. She is to remain with the traumatic memory, describing it
to the therapist until she feels overwhelmed by feeling; at that point, she is
to return to the safe place and discuss the incident with the trusted friend in
the safe place.
By alternating back and forth between the
safe place and the trauma, people can more easily integrate the memories of
trauma and also the powerful feelings the trauma has generated. Here is an
example of the use of this "safe place" technique.
Therapist: Would you like to try
something that might make this process easier?
Survivor: What is it?
T: It involves imagining a safe place.
S: All right.
T: We will be going back and forth
between a safe place and the camp where all the terrible things happened to
you. Are you willing to do that?
S: All right.
T: I would like you to close your eyes
and imagine a safe place. It might be a real place or an imaginary place. It
could be in a house you know, or it could be in the mountains or in a field or
wherever you feel safest.
Would you
do that now?
S: (After a minute of trying, cries.)
There isn't any place safe any more.
T: I understand that. Could you imagine
the safest place that you can think of.
S: All right. I am in my aunt's house.
In her front room. I always felt safe there.
T: Is your aunt there?
S: Yes. I always trusted her. She was
very nice to me. My mother used to leave me there on weekends, when she went to
the city.
T: Good. So now I would like you to go
to the safe place for awhile and spend a little time there.
S: (Is silent for a minute or two.)
T: How are you doing?
S: Fine.
T: Good. Now I am going to ask you in a
minute to leave the safe place and go to the camp. When you do that, I'll ask
you to tell me what you are experiencing. And then as soon as you feel
overwhelmed, like the feelings are too much, or that you start feeling like you
are leaving your body or loosing touch with yourself, I will ask you to run
back to the safe place. OK?
S: Yes.
T: All right. I want you to leave your
aunt's house now and go to the camp. ....What do you see there?
S: I see my room.
T: What is it like? What do you notice?
S: It seems all grey to me. I see my
clothes hanging on the door. And I notice the door knob.... I am starting to
feel frozen in my body. ... I ...I... (Stops talking.)
T: I'd like you to run back to the safe
place now. Will you do that please?
S: (Pauses, then breathes deeply.) I am
with my aunt now.
T: Tell your aunt what you just
experienced.
S: (Silent for half a minute, then
begins to cry.) I am telling her about what the men did to me... (Sometimes it
is easier for the survivor to "tell" someone in her mind than someone
outside herself.)
Help people recognize and develop their
resources. In the midst of trauma, it is sometimes hard to remember that
people's lives are about more than their trauma and that their spirit is often
greater than what has befallen them. In even the worst of circumstances, there
are opportunities to grow beyond the obstacles that beset people. It is helpful
to survivors to have their resources recognized. Some resources are inner ones.
Survivor: I spent time with a friend
this morning. She was grieving over the loss of her baby.
Therapist: What did you do with her?
S: I just spent time with her and I
held her while she cried.
T: It amazes me that after all you've
been through you can still be there for someone else.
Or:
Survivor: I am feeling a lot of despair
today. I just don't know how I can go on with my life.
Therapist: Yes, I can understand your
despair. You've lost so much, and life looks like it is not presenting any
hopeful possibilities for the future. How is it that you have been able to go
on this far?
How have you been able to do it?
S: I don't know how I've done it. I guess
I was always that way. I always went on no matter what. My mother was like that
too. She grew up in a family where a lot of her brothers and sisters died.
Somehow, she had
the strength to keep going.
T: It seems that maybe you have a lot
of that kind of strength too.
S: Yes. But I'm not sure it is going to
be enough to deal with all this.
T: Right. This seems too much to deal
with sometimes isn't it?
S: It feels that way.....I don't know.
I hope I'll have the strength. My children need me.
Sometimes the resources to be recognized
and developed are external ones. Trauma disrupts life, and re-building life
usually requires support. Help the survivor recognize and develop support of
all kinds in her life:
friendship,
medical help, housing, whatever is needed.
Avoid pushing for recovery too soon. In
most cultures, there is a conventional tendency to respond to other people's
traumas and sometimes one's own by saying clichÈs like, "You just have to
keep on going," "That was in the past, there's no sense in dwelling
on it," "I just try not to think about it, you should too," etc.
But trauma freezes people into the past, and it robs them of a sense of future.
Such clichÈs, though useful for some, are often hurtful for those who are not
yet ready or able to move on. It is important to remain patient with the
healing process, reassuring people that healing takes time. And healing from
trauma usually takes more time than anyone likes.
Take care of yourself. Last but definitely
not least, make sure you have support and that you do not overextend yourself.
Secondary PTSD is a real phenomenon. You can be traumatized by exposure to
other people's traumatic stories, energy, and emotions. Don't let your life be
overwhelmed by others' traumas, and be sure to get plenty of support and help
for the feelings that come up for you in working with other peoples' traumas.
If you have had traumas in your own life that you are not finished dealing with
-- and most of us do -- then you can expect that the memories and issues and
feelings associated with them will be retriggered by working with other
peoples' traumas. Get help sooner rather than later in dealing with whatever
comes up for you. It can be a great opportunity and lead to greater health and
healing for you as well as the people you are helping!
Summary
Survivors need a chance to express
themselves and work with their experience in the context of a relationship they
can come to trust. This will help them to restore their trust in others and in
themselves and also to begin coming to terms with their experience.
In this process, it is helpful to give them
lots of room to talk or not to talk, to remember or not to remember, to feel or
not to feel, to express or not to express.
It helps to let the survivor lead the way,
to ask questions, to reflect feelings, to mirror what you see and hear.
In general, it is helpful to encourage
expression of their experience, feeling, and sensation, as long as they are not
overwhelmed in doing so. It is best for them to absorb their experience a bit
at a time rather than all at once.
It also helps to get people to understand
that how they feel is normal and a result of what have happened to them. It
helps to give them confidence that they can live with their feelings and
experiences and patiently deal
with the intensity of feelings they have to
absorb.
Most important, it helps for you just to be
present, without judgment, trusting in their healing process and your own instinct
and intuition.
When people are wounded in war, they heal.
The same can be true of emotional wounds. With our help and with time, people
may heal from the worst of experiences.
Final Word
Your
feedback will help this page grow. Please let me know what works for you and
what doesn't. If you have questions, please feel free to ask, and I'll do what
I can to answer. If you wish consultation on any of your work with trauma,
please ask me, and I'll try to help. E-mail me at the addess above.
To read a
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THE
TREATMENT OF TRAUMA
[Ed
Schmookler, Ph.D.]
Healing the
vital force damaged by trauma is a critical challenge most homeopaths face.
Most of our clients have experienced some trauma, many of them severely, some
of them catastrophically. As homeopaths we can play
a key role
in the healing of trauma, because we can stimulate healing of the vital force,
which receives much of the impact of trauma. Psychotherapists can help clients
face the emotions that surface when long buried trauma emerges and can help the
person forge a new life. But homeopaths can bring relief to a vital force misshapen
by trauma. Trauma can bruise, oppress, beat, puncture, fragment, shatter, and
even destroy the vital energy that
shapes our
lives.
Homeopathy
is an especially good modality of healing the kind of damage that trauma
causes. Trauma freezes people in time. Years after a trauma is over, people are
still living it: the Vietnam vet still looks for cover when
a
helicopter flies overhead, the rape survivor still fears the shadows in the
alleyway, the incest victim still fears intimacy, and the man beaten in infancy
still wishes to die.
Trauma
locks people into the past. Homeopathy unlocks frozen functioning: Sulphur
releases rage pent up in depression, Sepia moves a woman out of post-partum
immobility, Nat-m. moves old salted away grief into tears
again. Successful
homeopathic treatment allows immobilized life to flow again.
The disturbing terrain of trauma
Treating
trauma requires the best that is in us. Traumatized people can be the most
rewarding people to treat, because the possibilities for recovery can be
miraculous, but treating them may require us to face parts of life
and of
ourselves that most of us would rather avoid.
Treating
trauma is an intense confrontation with life and with oneself. Many of us
prefer to surround ourselves with comfortable pictures of reality in which we
can live our lives without excessive disturbance. Listening to
the
traumatic life stories of others can severely disrupt these pictures.
Even if we
have grown up with trauma, hearing about the violation and violence inflicted
on our clients can be a violation in itself of how we would prefer to
experience our world. Our first obstacle in dealing with the reality
of our
clients' experience can therefore be our own denial.
About 25
years ago, a woman came into my office and announced that her father had been
having intercourse with her, and that, as a result of his remorse and fear of
discovery, he had committed suicide. I told her that I thought
she
believed what she was saying, implying, of course, that I did not. She had the
wisdom not to return. This was denial in its most blatant form: I had no
conscious context in which to believe what she told me. At that time,
almost no
one talked about incest or other forms of abuse.
Since then,
thanks to the women's movement and the recovery movement, the truth about life
in many homes has emerged. Even now, people refuse to believe in the reality of
more horrific forms of abuse such as ritual abuse, because the horror is too
great for most people to tolerate.
Our first
major challenge in treating trauma is to remain open and be willing to hear
people's stories, even when they violate what we like to hear. Even if we
cannot believe what we hear, it is important to keep our doubt to ourselves and
to consult with others outside the treatment session. Once we let the truth of
others' experience in, we are confronted by another major challenge: the
intense states and emotions of trauma.
If we as
homeopaths are to treat effectively, we must understand the basic state our
clients are in, and this may require a willingness to experience within
ourselves the experience of our clients.
Rajan
Sankaran: "Each remedy has a peculiar state of mind which is
characteristic to it. Each remedy produces a state”.
Each
patient has a state of mind. If you compare symptoms, you will be lost in the
jungle. If you understand the state, you will find that there is only one
remedy which produces the state. Aphorism 211 says, 'The state of disposition
being characteristic, which can least of all remain hidden from the accurately
observing physician.' You have to look, you have to see, you have to understand
and you have to feel the state. You have to experience
the
experience of the patient. This is the art of case taking."
It is not
enough to list symptoms mechanically; we must understand from within where our
clients are stuck, and with trauma this can be especially challenging, because
the states are so intense.
The world
of trauma is a strange and tortured landscape. It is made up of volcanoes of
rage, sagging mountains of sadness and despair, frozen seas of horror, streams
of fear running throughout, pits of depression, black holes
of frozen
terror, blasted fields of shock and devastation, and oceans of grief. This is
where our clients are stuck and what we can release them from with our
remedies.
But to
choose the right remedy may require us to be willing to feel, at least briefly,
these deep and intense feelings. Trauma is perhaps as universal as the miasms
and as devastating in its impact. Homeopathy is a great tool in returning to
people what trauma has taken away. To connect with our clients and to find the
right remedy, we need to do our best in being open, vulnerable and authentic.
The rewards
can be not only healing for our clients but for ourselves as well.
Three levels of trauma
Trauma can
impact different levels of the organism, and it is helpful to be clear at what
level one is working when working with survivors of trauma. The three levels of
trauma are: Basic Trauma, Interpersonal Trauma, and Developmental Trauma. We
shall examine each in turn.
1. level =
basic trauma
This level
is common to all trauma, from car accidents to ritual abuse. No matter what the
trauma, all trauma shares some features in common. This has been a surprise to
me. I worked for many years with Vietnam vets.
Many of
them shared features in common: a broiling, brooding rage, a sense of
injustice, shock, an inability to move out of the past, mistrust, and
difficulty maintaining relationships.
My surprise
came when a man who had an auto accident, a woman robbed at gunpoint, and a man
raped as a child all looked like Vietnam vets! Their suffering was similar and
so was their way of being in the world.
Purely Basic Traumata are accidents of all
kinds (car, sports, industrial) and natural disasters (earthquakes, floods,
hurricanes, fires).
The primary
feature of all trauma is overwhelm. Trauma by its very nature presents the
organism with more than it is accustomed to handle. By definition, trauma takes
us beyond our ordinary capacity for coping.
I am
accustomed to going down an elevator at normal speeds. I may be a bit pushed to
be crowded in with far too many people; I would be very stressed to be stuck in
an elevator all day caught between floors in the dark.
But I am
entirely unprepared for it to descend suddenly four stories without brakes.
That would be traumatic. But in going beyond what we are used to coping with,
trauma does not catch our system entirely by surprise,
for we have
survival mechanisms built in to deal with overwhelming experience.
The two
major responses that arise in response to sudden and extreme danger are
hyper-reactivity and shutdown.
1. The hyper-reactive response is the primary
defense/attack mode of fight or flight. People become hypervigilant, startle
easily, and are ready to run or attack at the slightest stimuli/repeated
flashbacks and nightmares relating to the trauma.
Picture of
hyper-reactivity
You come
out to the waiting room to meet your client, and he looks up in surprise. He
looks you intently in the eye, and pulls his hand away quickly when you shake
his hand.
"I'm
not myself," he says, when you settle down in the office. "I'm jumpy,
and I can't sleep. Ever since the accident, my mind isn't working right. I keep
going over and over what happened. I can't seem to make it stop.
And
then," he says, starting to get agitated, "every time I go out, I
react in ways I shouldn't. I don't understand what's happening with me.
Sometimes, I think I'm going crazy. When people are walking on the sidewalk
towards me,
I feel like
they are coming right at me. I get mad. I get mad real easily these days. The
other day, at a fast food place, I almost got in a fight with this kid that
bumped into me. People just piss me off. I didn't use to be this way."
2. The shutdown response: When an
organism becomes overwhelmed, it has built-in responses to protect it from too
much reaction. Physiological shutdown is shock. The periphery closes so that
the vital functions
within the
core of the organism can be preserved. Shock has a quality that is unmistakable
once you become familiar with it. It is a combination of frozenness, pallor,
and brittleness. This can be lodged in the system and
emerge many
years after the trauma, when the trauma is accessed.
Psychological
shutdown in trauma is emotional numbing and avoidance of stimuli that remind
people of the trauma. People become detached, unemotional, and unable to have
normal feelings. They avoid situations, such as
public
places or open spaces or closed in spaces or crowed places which remind them of
where they were hurt; or they may avoid people who remind them of people who
hurt them.
The deepest
level of shutdown is depression, which often accompanies Post Traumatic Stress
Disorder.
Picture of shutdown
She sits on
the chair facing you. She looks stunned. You ask her questions, and there is a
short pause before she answers. She sometimes draws a blank. Her face looks
blank, staring straight ahead. She slumps back in her chair.
"What
are you feeling these days?" you ask.
"I
don't know. Not much." She sits and waits.
You ask for
more.
"I
stay home and watch TV a lot. I just sit in the house. I don't really want to
do anything. My boyfriend comes over, but it isn't the same anymore. I really
don't care if he comes over or not. It bothers me that I feel that way.
I know I
should feel different. Ever since I got hit by the car, I don't really have
interests in anything." Long silence. Her eyes look sunken in.
Most trauma
survivors have both the activation and the shutdown going on simultaneously:
they are driving full speed ahead with the brakes on. One reason that trauma
has such devastating effects on the economy of the
organism is
that it is a real burnout.
Hyper-reactivity
combined with shutdown can overload and consequently exhaust the nervous
system, the immune system, and the neuro-endrocrinological system .
People with
disorders of these systems often have trauma in their background. Trauma thus
becomes fertile ground for homeopathic treatment.
Here is a
prototypical example of Basic Trauma, which combines a number of different
stories of actual clients.
A man
working on the job falls from a considerable height. He loses consciousness in
the fall and has injuries to his back. Since that time, in addition to pain in
his back, he has flashbacks of the accident, he feels severely withdrawn, he
cannot go back to work, because he feels panicky at the thought, he feels
irritable, he is jumpy and hypervigilant, and he has nightmares several times
per week.
Even though
it is eight months after the accident, and his physical injuries have
stabilized, he feels he is not himself. When asked to visualize the accident,
he gets disoriented, dizzy, and frightened and does not want to go
on with the
visualization.
He uses
drugs occasionally to numb out and "feel better." Here are examples
of some rubrics one might use in such cases.
- Fear that something terrible will happen;
- Sensitivity (oversensitivity);
- Feeling disturbed;
- Nightmares;
- Irritability;
- Shock;
- Sleeplessness, and/or
- Easily frightened.
Remedies
one might consider would be:
Acon.:
perhaps our best first aid in trauma, along with Arnica. For the shock stage of
trauma. Shock becomes embedded in the energy structure and does not necessarily
pass after trauma is over. It can remain in the system
for
decades, emerging only as the trauma is uncovered again.
Aconite can
be used many, many years after traumas of all kinds to help remove shock from
the system. The best picture of Aconite is to my mind in Gibson's Studies of
Homeopathic Remedies, where he describes the
nature of
the poisoning by this plant. It is a state of freezing anoxia.
The feeling
state associated with Aconite is, "It happened too suddenly for me to accommodate,
so I'm stopping and going inside to preserve myself."
Arn.:
Primary remedy for treating physical injuries, including physical abuse. Again,
even years after the trauma, Arnica can be successfully used to bring about
healing of trauma. A key aspect of this remedy is that the
person does
not wish to be approached for fear of being hurt again.
Its feeling
state is "I need to stay still and go inside to heal. Don't come near or
draw me out."
2. level -
interpersonal trauma
A car accident,
an industrial accident, an earthquake, or a fire can leave people suffering
from PTSD. But when the injury is at the hands of another person, when it comes
from intentional violation, new features enter in.
Even though
all trauma has impact on a person's relationships, interpersonal violence is
more devastating.
People lose
their trust and their sense of personal power more deeply. Thus, what you are
treating is different and in a sense deeper than when treating Basic Trauma
alone.
Interpersonal
Trauma: war, rape, and armed robbery. Murder is another example which can
impact others related to the victim. (sudden) loss of a loved one.
Features of interpersonal trauma
The two
kinds of Interpersonal we encounter most frequently are interpersonal violence
and loss. Interpersonal Violence When one person commits violence upon another,
all of the responses of Basic Trauma are
activated -
hyper-reactivity and shutdown.
But in
addition to this, deeper levels of the self are violated, and different
responses occur. This occurs at two levels: one is in the relationship to
others, and the other in relationship to oneself. When people have been
violated
they not only fear and avoid the perpetrator; they also tend to generalize and
mistrust all other people as well.
Basic
Trauma breaks the bubble of invulnerability people carry around themselves. We
generally go around assuming ourselves safe, even though we may know that
things can happen to us. When we are traumatized this
illusion of
safety is broken.
Energetically,
the aura around a person which serves as a cushion against intrusive
stimulation collapses, and the person feels exposed to danger. But, in
addition, when people have been violated by others, the native trust
that people
feel toward others is fractured, and they live in mistrust. They also often
feel abandoned.
This is
universally true in abused children, but it often happens with adults who were
raped or who were harmed by war. Where was the protection? Why did this happen
to me?
Interpersonal
violence also disrupts the sense of self. Through violation, people experience
helplessness and powerlessness. The usual impact of Interpersonal Trauma is a
lowering of self-confidence and self-value. People
feel bad
about themselves. Very often this is experienced as shame.
Being
beaten or raped by another is a deeply shaming experience.
In
addition, people feel immense rage at being violated. The sense of self is
marred and the relationship to others disturbed. Because trust, empowerment,
and value have been so violated in Interpersonal Trauma, it is important
for us as
practitioners to treat such clients in a way that builds trust and supports
empowerment.
Even when
the treatment is not psychotherapy, the relationship is essential in the
healing process. Trust is supported by empathy, authenticity, and mirroring.
Letting
your clients know that you understand something of how they feel, being
yourself, and telling them what you understand about how they experience their
lives will help them feel "met" by you. Being open and being yourself
will help people feel safe.
Expressing
doubt about their experience, minimizing its impact, or being cold or arrogant
will reduce trust. It may take a long time for a trauma client to come to trust
you.
You can
help your clients feel empowered by including them in your understanding of the
healing process and allowing them as much choice as makes sense. Make sure that
informed consent is complete, let them know what
can happen
from the remedies, and let them make choices about when and how they are to be
treated.
For
example, some clients who have been abused by oral sex may prefer to take the
remedy themselves rather than have the remedy put under the tongue by the
practitioner.
Picture of interpersonal violence
She sits, crying.
"Ever since the rape, I'm not the same. I used to enjoy life. I'd go out
and have a good time. I loved my boyfriend. I guess I still love him, but we're
not getting along any more, at least not like we used to.
We fight,
about nothing really. I just don't trust him. He wants to have sex all the
time, and I don't like it as much as I used to. To tell you the truth, I'd just
as soon he'd leave me alone. I tell him I don't want to, but then I feel
bad about
myself. Sometimes I feel like I'm just no good. Then other times, I think it's
him."
Prototypical case example
A woman
comes in who was a victim of a robbery two years ago. Since that time, in
addition to the standard symptoms of Basic Trauma, she has also had a severe
disturbance in her relationships.
She has
difficulty in trusting anyone. She feels she was "shafted" by her
employer, whom she warned about the possible dangers of robbery. She is angry
at the employer and at its representative, the insurance company
who is
paying for her treatment. She also has trouble trusting her own judgment, since
she feels she should have left her employment after they failed to heed her
warning.
She is
depressed, her relationship with her partner has deteriorated, and she doesn't
like herself much, because she is ashamed of her distrust and even dislike of
other people that has come about since the robbery.
Rubrics one
might use could include:
- Suspicious (mistrustful);
- Lack of confidence;
- Rage (fury);
- Aversion (to being approached);
- Aversion (to all persons);
- Feeling forsaken;
- Ailments (illnesses) as a result of
mortification.
Possible
remedies:
Staph.:
When a man sexually abuses his daughter, he feels shame, and often he will
project this shame into her: look what you made me do, you are so bad.
In
addition, sexual abuse, because it is so secret and because it arouses feelings
of pleasure at the same time as it violates, is deeply shaming. This shame does
not go away.
Staph. one
of our best shame remedies (ailments from mortification; suppressed
mortification), and it is one of our best remedies for sequelae of sexual
abuse. It is good for the suppressed rage that arises in abuse.
A child
often cannot afford to express the rage she or he feels against the
perpetrator; it would make the situation even more dangerous. Staph. can bring
rage back to the forefront and return shame to its rightful owner, the
perpetrator. Staph. is also, incidentally, almost a specific for trauma
involving cuts.
Its feeling
state is, "There is something rotten in me; I dare not fight back."
Ign.: for
sudden loss or the loss of relationships that don't go too deep. It is also
good for people who get stuck in a "black hole," one of the common
subjective phenomena that accompanies trauma.
In trauma,
including sudden loss, feelings often get stuck, unable to release. Ignatia can
sometimes be of use here. Like Nux-vomica, Ignatia has strychnine as one of its
constituents, and so like Nux-v it has the spastic working-against-itself
quality. So it has somatizing and tensing shared by Nux-v and Rhus-tox.
I think
Ignatia is primarily tensing against the expression of grief and rage. A client
obsessing about a boyfriend, calling him and going to his house at all hours and
raging at him, collapsing in constant grief, unable to move on, came out of it
after a dose of Ignatia.
The feeling
state of Ignatia is, "I am tightly immersed in grief."
3. level -
developmental trauma
When
Interpersonal Trauma (or severe Basic Trauma) impacts early during childhood,
then it has the deepest impact of all. It is while the tree is still growing,
that the limbs can become most easily deformed.
People with
Developmental Trauma suffer from more than PTSD; their personality structures
have become altered - it is more than a condition, it becomes part of the
being.
As one of
my clients put it, "Recovery from incest is like trying to remove egg from
the batter after the cake is baked." Thus, the tasks of healing are more
complex than with Basic Trauma or Interpersonal adult trauma.
You must
help the person heal from Basic Trauma, Interpersonal Trauma, and the impact on
the whole personality structure.
Most
Developmental Trauma comes in the form of abuse.
The
different kinds of abuse are physical, sexual, emotional, spiritual, and
ritual. We'll talk on a different day about the different features of each kind
of abuse and what remedies can be helpful. As we go through the layers, from
Basic, to Interpersonal, to Developmental, we are, generally speaking, moving
from acute to chronic.
People
usually recover faster and more easily from an earthquake than from a rape and
from an adult experience of rape than from childhood sexual abuse. Therefore,
the choice of remedies will sometimes reflect the depth of the trauma.
Treatment
of Basic Trauma: think of acute remedies;
Treatment
of Interpersonal Trauma: use remedies that work at an intermediate depth;
Treatment
of Developmental Trauma: work with remedies that reach much deeper into the
organism, even down to the miasmatic level.
Developmental
Trauma shares all the features of Basic and Interpersonal Trauma, but it has
the added dimension of impact on personality and character structure. When we
treat Developmental Trauma, our work tends to be
more
complex, deeper, and slower than when working with purely Basic Trauma or adult
Interpersonal Trauma. Most trauma cases I see are Developmental Trauma cases.
Even in
situations where there has been an accident or a rape or war experience, very
often there is also a background of childhood trauma.
This
results in a more prolonged recovery. If you are treating someone for a recent
trauma and recovery is slower than seems reasonable, it may be that there is
additional trauma in the background, which can sometimes be discovered through
inquiry.
Kinds of abuse
Knowing
about the different kinds of abuse you might encounter may help you avoid going
into shock and getting vicarious PTSD, when you hear peoples' stories.
Physical abuse
Many, many
children are hit. There is controversy about whether this is at all necessary.
Alice Miller, in For Your Own Good, describes the consequences of what she
calls "poisonous pedagogy" of the past few centuries, in
which
parents have justified serious aggression against their children by claiming it
is in the child's best interests.
Most of the
physical abuse I have seen as a clinician, however, comes in the form of severe
beatings, usually unpredictable. It is therefore usually not a form of
discipline.
The movie A
Boy's Story, depicts physical abuse and its frightening and degrading impact.
Physical abuse frightens people and damages their self-esteem.
Picture of physical abuse
"It
would happen when he'd been drinking. When he was sober, my father was actually
easy to get along with. I loved him. But then at night, I'd listen for the
door, and when it would slam, I'd know he was drunk. My whole body would
freeze, and I'd sit in my room and wait. Sometimes I'd hear him and my mom
yelling. Then after awhile I'd hear them fighting. One time he pushed her down
the stairs. I felt so terrible. I hated him. But I also feel so
ashamed
that I didn't do anything about it."
"Could
you have done something?"
"I
don't know. I was seven." Long pause. "Other times, he'd come into my
room, with that terrible look in his eyes. It was like he didn't even see me.
He'd pull me off my bed and start whaling on me. One time, he threw me
across the
room into a wall. I hate him. Maybe it's because of him that I can't get too
close to anybody."
Emotional abuse
Sometimes
this is more painful than physical abuse, because its impact is closer to the
core.
Parents who
belittle, threaten, harass, criticize, intimidate, and rage at their children
can leave deep, traumatic scars that seriously warp their development.
I think
that most people have some degree of emotional abuse in growing up. The
manifestations probably cover most remedies, depending upon severity and kind
of abuse. I think it would be too hard to do a group anamnesis, because the kinds
of abuse and responses vary too much.
An
excellent book on the subject, also by Alice Miller, is Drama of the Gifted
Child, which most people seem to be able to identify with.
Sexual abuse
Whether by
a stranger or by a family member, sexual abuse seems generally more devastating
in its impact than physical abuse.
While
physical abuse will usually leave its victim with a deep sense of shame,
because they have usually been told that the beatings are their own fault,
sexual abuse leaves a deeper level of shame. It is almost always a secret,
with severe
threats for telling.
Therefore,
remembering is often difficult and telling is frightening.
When
clients tell you about their abuse history, support for their truth is
important in order not to retraumatize them.
Picture of sexual abuse
"I
can't stand how I feel these days. When the memories first came, I felt so
relieved. All the sadness I had always felt just suddenly was explained and now
I don't feel that vague horrible depression anymore. But I can't stand
being
touched right now, even by my husband. He doesn't understand, and I can't get
him to understand. I feel so horrible. The other day, my girlfriend and I were
talking. The same thing happened to her when she was a little
girl. She
says all men are like our fathers. I don't like to think that way, but
sometimes I think it's true. When my father used to do those things to me, I
hated him. But I also loved him. It was confusing. I wanted him to love me. But
not that way. He made me feel real bad about myself. Sometimes my husband does
too. Especially when he gets mad at me when I don't want to have sex. Sometimes
I wish I was dead."
Ritual abuse
As
difficult as it is to accept, there are organized groups of people, pederasts
and sadists, who prey upon small children and others.
Many people
from all over the world are survivors of abuse by Satanic cults.
Some of
them have been born into transgenerational families who have practiced
ritualized, sexual sadism. These clients all share similar stories of ritual
murder and worse. The abuse is usually prolonged and repetitive and
has
understandably catastrophic impact on development.
Similar,
less horrific abuse appears in other cult and religious settings. It usually
involves the deepest level of attempted destruction, the spiritual level, and
aims to destroy or otherwise impact the soul.
Even in
this kind of unimaginably severe trauma, deep and even miraculous healing is
possible.
I have too little
experience treating ritual abuse homeopathically. I work a great deal as a
therapist in this domain, but it does not lend itself well to combining with
homeopathy, because the transference is so deeply complex
and
difficult in these cases, that taking on another role is too demanding and
seems generally inappropriate.
In
addition, people who have been ritually abused have usually been drugged by
their perpetrators, which generates an additional, complex factor that requires
special handling.
If you find
yourself treating a client with ritual abuse, I strongly suggest getting
consultation from a psychotherapist experienced in treating such trauma, so
that you understand more about what you are dealing with.
Prototypical case example
Here is an
example of a typical case of Developmental Trauma, drawn from numerous cases. A
woman comes in with a history of depression, disturbed relationships, and
chronic low self-esteem.
As her
history unfolds, you discover that she grew up in a family with an alcoholic
mother and an abusive father. The mother was emotionally absent. The father was
severely narcissistic, and he took advantage of the
daughter's
vulnerability to develop and perpetuate an incestuous relationship.
She had
forgotten about the incest until recently, when the memories began to emerge.
Since then, her life has fallen apart. She has difficulty sleeping, her
relationship with her partner and friends has disintegrated, and she has
difficulty on her job.
She has
always been a "caretaker," first of her younger siblings, then later
of her friends and her alcoholic partner. She has little sense of her own
worth, indeed she never did.
She has a
history of sexual promiscuity alternating with sexual aversion. She feels
suicidal a lot and has always felt that way. She feels a great deal of despair
and anguish underneath. She feels no one has ever been there for her, and in
fact, no one has. She has little sense of any possible positive future for
herself.
Rubrics one
might use could include:
- Lack of confidence;
- Despair;
- Fear (of others);
- Fear (of being hurt);
- Fear (of being injured)
- Fear (of misfortune);
- Sadness (despondency, dejection, depression);
- Ailments (from anger);
- Vexation;
- Ailments (from anxiety);
- Delusions;
- Worry, and/ or
- Weeping.
Remedies to
consider:
Aur-met.:
One of the fundamental loves, which is the love of living, of self protection
is perverted and he longs to die…" (Kent) One of the most profound
depression remedies.
When trauma
has hit hard and hit long, people often simply do not want to go on.
Trauma
crushes the will to live, and one of the few remaining powers people have is to
leave. In addition, trauma, because it feels like it contaminates one's very
inside, makes people feel that they and their lives are worthless.
It is then
time to leave.
Suicidal
despair is well met by the homeopathic remedy Aurum.
Its feeling
state is "I am crushed and life is too painful to endure."
Syph.: I
think the miasm driving abusive families, when there is violence and/or alcohol
is the most destructive and desperate miasm, the Syphilitic.
Syphilinum
is the pure nosode for this family miasm.
See the
movie, “Once Were Warriors” to observe and feel this miasm at its horrific
work. Sankaran describes the miasm as so unable to cope with the situation that
it is desperately driven either to kill or to die.
After years
of psychotherapy and homeopathic treatment, one client no longer needed therapy
after Syph CM.
The inner
desperation that came from a childhood of abandonment and physical abuse was
healed by this remedy.
The feeling
state of Syphilinum is, " There is black rage; this must be over and
done!"
conclusion
Many of the
cases a homeopath sees have trauma as part of the picture. Awareness of trauma
and its impact may help you to understand the case and select the right remedy.
As usual,
careful selection of a remedy that covers the whole case will be the key to
your success. With cases with significant trauma, it is helpful to have your
client see a psychotherapist adjunctively to help manage the overwhelming
feelings that can emerge in the healing process.
For dosing,
it is best to start low and to go slow. If you would like to read about the
homeopathic treatment of trauma in greater depth, go to:
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